Reducing Our Personality “Fireworks” In & Out of the Office!
I wish you and yours a 4th of July weekend that’s full of fun, good times with family and friends and a safe one. Also hope we all take time to reflect on why we celebrate this special day in the history of our great country. And, as we enjoy the surprise, beauty and excitement of all the firework shows this weekend, I for one am going to make some quiet time to think about any “fireworks” that I may be creating within my office and family….even if they are relatively small ones, I am committed to defusing it (or them) asap. We can create personal fireworks in as many ways as pyrotechniciams can design exciting firework shows for us.
Some examples would be:
- blowing a gasket before we have all the facts about a situation;
- assuming the worse as only a true drama king or queen knows how to do;
- talking excessively loud in a restaurant or other public place;
- raising a ruckus over a really minor event in the big scheme of things;
- taking the most extreme, formal steps to settle a conflict with a colleague, family member, another individual or entity before trying to resolve the matter via alternative dispute options (e.g. plain old fashion sit down and talk session; mediation, etc.)
- last minute chaos at work or home due to our own lack of planning;
- yelling at our kids or spouses for small “stuff” after being professionally polite all day those certifiably real bullies in our workplace;
- being the office troublemaker….you know the type…they LOVE to keep trouble stirred up among the troops, they relish look for the failings of others and are almost always the ones who are super defensive whenever their mistakes are duly noted;
- publicly reacting to what employees did wrong, but rarely acknowledging all they’ve done right (When I’m right, who remembers and when I’m wrong, who the heck forgets?!); and
- overreacting to any hint of a problem, challenge or unexpected change in plans.
This is, of course, just a starter list off the top of my head so I encourage all of us to make a list of the destructive kind of “fireworks” that we personally may be imposing upon those around us. If we are being brutally honest with ourselves and discover a few “explosive” habits that could stand some changing, let’s fix it…..we can’t control a lot of the things that happen in our lives, but we can ensure that the only fireworks in our lives are those we enjoy on the 4th of July, New Year’s Eve, and other international celebrations.
Have a super, safe and fantastic weekend ahead and as always, thanks for stopping in for a few minutes…your comments and input are always welcome and enjoyed!